Carefrontation: Caring about the relationship enough to confront the issue.

It’s tough. I have failed in this more than most.⠀

Not knowing what to say. ⠀⠀

How to say things. Will they get mad? How will I handle that? ⠀

I have spent so much time over the last few years trying to learn how to do this. ⠀

How to change me. ⠀

How to articulate things in a way to the other person where we can solve whatever the issue is at hand. ⠀

I’ve spent countless hours in training on language, and how to apply NLP techniques, listening techniques. ⠀

Learning how to seek to first understand before being understood. ⠀

Learning how to ask questions to see the other person’s point of view. ⠀

Learning to not react and have empathy for the situation. ⠀

Learning to try and put myself in the other person's shoes. ⠀

Learning to handle the fire of the conversation and not emotionally react. ⠀

Learning to sit in uncomfortable conversations and debates. ⠀

Learning to be open and not closed during disagreements. ⠀

Learning how to be brave enough to even have the conversation and live with the outcome.

Learning to not be fearful of people. ⠀

Learning to collide on things in a constructive way. ⠀

I have failed so many times in this area. Failed to have the tough conversations. Failed to speak my truth. To listen to their truth without reacting.⠀

And yet... These failures keep driving me to become better at this. ⠀

To have another conversation. To admit my faults in these. To admit where I was at cause in creating this. ⠀

To rise to face the next CAREFRONTATION with massive love and empathy for both them and myself. ⠀

The Greatest gift of all is LOVE. ⠀

LOVE for yourself. LOVE for another. LOVE for the current Truth. ⠀

LOVE enough to be bold to have the conversation that needs to be had. ⠀

Where, how, when are you going to LOVE enough to have a CAREFRONTATION? :)

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